Dealing with the everyday human

The only way you can get anybody to do anything is by making the person want to do it. Sure,you can make a man to give you his rolex wrist watch by pointing a gun to his head, you can make a colleague cooperate with you by threatening to blackmail him or her, a boss can make his employees to cooperate with him by threatening to fire them, you can make a child do what you want by using a whip or threat. But these forceful methods or rather crude methods have a bad repercussion.The only way I can get you to do something is by giving you what you want. We all have different wants, almost every normal adult want good health, long life, food, sleep, security, to be rich, famous, sexual satisfaction, well being of their loved ones, and so many others. But there is one that we deeply crave for, so deep and that is the desire to be great, the desire to be important, the craving to be appreciated. Believe or not, we all crave for it. It is this craving, desire, 'ginger' as maliq would say, that makes one to achieve greatness and success in life. Not forgetting , this same 'ginger' lures many guys and girls into becoming immoral characters. The drive behind your cravings and desire to be great and important and the plans you make to get your result, is what determines your character, your personality. Ask yourself this question, ' How do you get your feeling of importance?' Some persons, most especially women, go the extreme just to have the feeling of being important in their relationship. Naturally, we women love attention but not to the extreme. Understanding your man comes in. True but weird, some people who are insane find in that insanity, a feeling of importance which they couldn't see in the world of reality. I call it 'The hard to please syndrome.' Some due to failed marriages, and other different societal hiccups.
We need to learn to nourish our self esteem and that of the persons around us. Give kind words of appreciation. It works for even the meanest and smartest of persons. I don't mean flatteries, they are far from being sincere. General Obregon's philosophy 'dont be afraid of the enemies who attack you, be afraid of the friends who flatter you'.
When you appreciate someone sincerely, the person gets to do things from his mind generously.