Soul Searching

So I am on the couch, reading and a thought came to me,'human interaction' yeah...we blame another rather than ourselves for virtually everything. For instance, a thief who murdered a person, hadly accepts his wrong, instead he would blame it on society or experiences. He would want to justify himself. Why is that? Cos of the selfish way of reasoning. Ok, take for instance, the insecurity issues we have in our country and the President plus the different parties, house of reps and senates, everyone keeps blaming them. Dont get me wrong, I never said the president and his associates are right, because sincerely speaking, I cant vouch for him, reason being that I dont know what sort of things they are involved in, I can only tell you that I get information from the news, newspapers, different opinions from persons around and social networking sites. But what I am trying to say here is, can we just think for a moment, who truly is to blame? Do not forget, we are Nigerians, we are responsible for our country, for each other. Lets stop blaming others but instead do a background check on our individual self. The change you seek starts from you, believe me and this applies to every area of your life. Everyone thinks for himself alone, the selfish syndrome. Criticism is futile because it puts a man on the defensive, and usually makes him strive to justify himself. When you criticise someone consistently, it is dangerous because it wounds the person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses his resentment. Our human nature makes us or the wrong doer in question, to blame everyone but himself. But remember, the person we are going to correct and criticize will probably justify himself and even blame you in return. Just deeply ponder on it. Even though you truly seek change either from the country, or your friends or one person really close to you that you are hoping for change from him or her, I am in favor of it but why not begin with yourself? Its more profitable than trying to improve others which is kinda dangerous. Dont you think? Browning said ' when a man's fight begins within himself, he is worth something'. It may take sometime to perfect yourself, then you can start the new year in seeking change. But start with yourself first! Confucius said 'dont complain about the snow on your neighbor's roof, when your own doorstep is unclean'. When dealing with people, let us remember that we are not dealing with creatures of logic but creatures of emotion, motivated by pride and vanity. It takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them, let's try to figure out why they do what they do and doing this, breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. God never judges a man until the end of his days.